M’s The Word: “Do NOT Buy a House!” and the Motherload at Christmas

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Add Your Heading Text HereThe Christmas Motherload is real and it’s time we talked about it.

The Christmas Motherload is real and it’s time we talked about it.

Episode 1 of M’s The Word has officially landed, and we’re kicking off with a bang. This brand-new talk show from The Mortgage Mum team dives into the real, unfiltered conversations women are having about money, motherhood, and modern life – and the M words that make you say “me too.”

In our debut episode, we’re unpacking a headline that shook social media:
“Don’t buy a house.”

This controversial claim came from financial experts on The Diary of a CEO, sparking debates across the UK property and mortgage world. But what does that advice really mean for real people, especially women trying to balance rising living costs, family priorities, and the dream of home ownership?

We discuss whether this kind of viral financial advice is helpful or harmful, and how the media often oversimplifies complex money decisions.

Should you buy a smaller home now or wait for your “forever home”?

What does true security mean in today’s economy?

And how can we navigate money choices that actually fit our lives – not the headlines?

Then, as December looms, we turn our focus to something every mum knows all too well: the Christmas Motherload. Research shows that women take on around twice as much of the Christmas workload as men.

From juggling gift lists and school plays to managing expectations and emotions, women often take on twice as much during the festive season, emotionally and practically. The episode explores why this happens, how to share the load, and how to drop the guilt around doing less.

Watch the full episode on YouTube now for real talk with honesty, humour, and every “M”word in between.

Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts.

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Do you agree with the “Don’t buy a house” advice, or think it’s out of touch with real life? Let’s talk in the comments.

Episode Highlights

- Diary of a CEO’s “Don’t buy a house” – myth or truth?

- The problem with viral financial advice

- Mum guilt & the Christmas Motherload

- Why women carry the magic (and the mental load)

- Tips for a calmer, more conscious festive season

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