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I get really upset when I find out people have been talking about me behind my back. ๐Ÿ˜ž

I know Iโ€™m not alone in this.

Iโ€™m only human after all. 

But recently, Iโ€™ve had it happen quite a bit.

The trigger stems back to my secondary school days.

One of my friends would ask me what I thought of โ€œXโ€ friend.

Sheโ€™d confide in me how she felt and Iโ€™d confide in her back.

The truth is, I wanted her to like me. 

I thought if I joined in with this shared feeling, she would.

Sheโ€™d then go and tell โ€œXโ€ friend โ€œSarah said this about youโ€.

And the whole group of girls would turn on me and confront me on it. ๐Ÿ˜ซ

It was awful and my trust in groups of women was something I took into my adult life.

Itโ€™s a wonder then that Iโ€™m now leading a large group of women, but I guess it shows my growth as a person. ๐Ÿค”

And my desire for things to change. ๐Ÿ‘ฏโ€โ™€๏ธ 

Both in the way we are treated and the way that we treat each other.

Itโ€™s NO surprise then that when I was faced with a group of brokers using a still of my face on TV as the subject of a post to spark venom I was triggered. ๐Ÿซฃโ€ผ๏ธ

Who shared together how they wanted to throw things at the TV ๐Ÿ“บ and had to turn it off in the end. Among other distasteful things. 

And it hasnโ€™t been the only thread thatโ€™s been created about me or this company. 

Weโ€™ve even had fake reviews from fake clients which weโ€™re looking into. 

Initially, I decided to ignore it. 

I have more important things to focus on. 

But this week Iโ€™m attending an industry event, and for the first time in a long time I actually have concerns about going. ๐Ÿ˜ž

Not only do I feel under attack behind the scenes, but I donโ€™t know who I can trust in that room.

And on top of that I am pregnant ๐Ÿคฐ Which adds another layer of vulnerability. 

So, to the brokers who started the posts – shame on you.

To the brokers who joined in and said awful things – it says more about you than it says about me. 

To the brokers (mostly female) who defended me when weโ€™ve never even spoken – thank you for overriding our conditioning and supporting me from afar. ๐Ÿค— 

And to those of you are who are currently joining in on discussing another person, whether theyโ€™re on TV or not – just remember there is a human at the end of it all. 

Another person with their own story. Their own triggers.

It doesnโ€™t help you to bash them. โ€ผ๏ธ

And it definitely doesnโ€™t make people like you more.

Kindness wins – always. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

So take that thought into your day today. โœจ

Since I shared this on my LinkedIn page, Iโ€™m blown away by the amount of support and love thatโ€™s been shown to me in this post – THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!!!! It really has lifted me more than you could imagine โœจ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿปโœจ

Sarah x